I want us to know that MARRIAGE is an INSTITUTION ORDAINED BY GOD, therefore it is a LIFE-TIME CONTRACT, which means you can’t just marry anybody because whosoever you married determines how your FUTURE will be.

I do ask a question that, before you say I DO to someone or before asking someone to marry you , can you say I DO to yourself?

You know the kind of person you are, can you marry your kind?

If your answer is NO, then you still have work to do.
Marriage is SPIRITUAL AND PHYSICAL.
As you are using one eye to pray, use the other one in looking..
Marriage is different from Wedding..
Majority are preparing for WEDDING and ignoring MARRIAGE..

Marriage goes beyond I love him/her, marry her/him for me..
We all know how this decision changed the life of Samson.
Before saying yes to someone, there are times you need to be selfish, it might look like that but you are right…
Marriage goes beyond using your emotions alone.
Marriage goes beyond planning on managing..

The kind of MARRIAGE you will have, depends on the kind of FOUNDATION you have..
If you have a faulty foundation, you will have a shaky building..
Your FOUNDATION is your RELATIONSHIP..
Your BUILDING is your MARRIAGE.

The book of Eccl. 3 made us know there is time and season for everything..
Some people are destined to marry early while some are kind of late..
Does that mean God is not God?
Nope..

Before saying I DO or before asking someone to marry you, there are things that must be done..
In the beginning of creation, did God create man first or marriage?!
God created MAN first.
Man was established before MARRIAGE.(Genesis 2)

Before Marriage, there was;

1. PURPOSE
What is Purpose?
Purpose is our reason for existence..
If you don’t know your purpose, how will you choose your partner?
It’s not compulsory for your partner to have the same Purpose as you but it must be aligned..
You must first realize your PURPOSE, so you can know who will fit into YOUR ASSIGNMENT.

You know some people will be like, let’s just get married, we’ll manage later, they don’t have a specific plan…
Don’t plan on making your marriage a managing one, make nice plans with the involvement of God.

2. Be well SINGLED
Some people needs to be well SINGLED before saying I DO.
Like I said earlier, there is time and season for everything..
If you are in a hurry to get married, you can but if things don’t work out, it might not be easy to move out..
Your Single Period is a time to use WISELY for God.
Be properly SINGLED before MARRIAGE..

Your Single Period is the time to be YOU.
If you are not happy while being SINGLE, you can’t be happy in MARRIAGE..
It is what you’ve been doing that you will keep building on.

3. KNOW GOD
Some people only get closer to GOD when Marriage is in view..
Let me give an illustration;
Assuming you are in Oshogbo and you are traveling to Lagos…
When you reach Ibadan, you now called your friend suddenly that he/she should come and meet you in Ibadan that you are going to Lagos;
If you are that friend, what will you use to reply?
You can imagine how you will feel, not to talk of God.
Now imagine calling God during marriage alone without knowing him first…
A friend that you don’t carry along at the start of your journey won’t be easy to carry along in the middle…
God is not a magician…
He has first loved us truly, but we must reciprocate the love too.
There is a difference between knowing God and God recognizing you too.
Some people know God but God doesn’t know them..
You are just a bench Warner in Church, no act of service (BE USEFUL).

4. PATIENCE
Don’t be pressured to get married ooooo

That  A is getting married does not mean it is time for B, some people just wanna get married without even having any knowledge about it..
They just wanna be MRS so they can use the ring to brag to their friends…
Do you think everyone with the ring is happy in their marriage?
Hmmm, you can only know what they want you to know my people..
Marriage is for you and your partner, not for people..
Let nobody rush you, nobody will give birth to your children, they are yours and will be yours…
Do you think if Joseph was not patient, he would be Prime Minister?
When Potiphar’s wife came and he fell, do you think we’ll still read about him?
We might and we might not.
He knew there is something more for him in the future so he was calm…
Some people have married the wrong partner all in the name of RUSH, if God is telling you to be CALM, please BE CALM! 

I can't exhaust all now, see the next post for concluding part.